Women in leadership, women on boards, gender balance in management, all seem very topical at the moment, or perhaps just reflective of the environment I am currently operating in? There is certainly more discussion on the topic and recently I have been asked more and more about the challenges of career progression for professional mothers… Read more
As I sit at my kitchen table on a Sunday afternoon planning work for the coming week, my mind is swirling with the upcoming week’s activities – I’ve nearly finished making the class costumes for my daughters end of term performance, the house is a mess, there is washing to sort out, and of… Read more
espect is one of those words that has different meanings for different people and the way they see the world. And where different ways of seeing the world come into contact there often comes conflict and so it is with respect. So what does respect mean? We explore this through three dimensions based on the science of Axiology.
Creating Awareness In The Coachee
Creating awareness is linked to ‘coaching that sticks.’ It is the ability for the coach to integrate and accurately evaluate multiple sources of information, and present these back to coachee to help them gain awareness. Creating awareness is ‘inside out’ / getting under the skin of the coachee/seeing things as they see them, whilst also making links to what is possible in their world from where the coachee currently is. This is inside-out transformational change, rather than skills based or outside-in change.
Although context is a powerful determinant in the quality of the coach-coachee relationship, being present with the coachee can really help. So just as we as a coach, are endeavouring to help the coachee with change that comes from the inside and shows itself outward, we too need to work on ourselves from inside out. There is a nice parallel here of ‘inside-outness,’ which helps with the genuineness and specialness of the coachee-coach relationship.
Many of us have a tendency to be very critical of our own performance and to set higher standards for ourselves than we would ever expect from colleagues or team members. This can lead to a feeling that we are not performing to a high enough standard.
There are strategies that can be followed to reduce the impact of this type of thinking.