Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you were convinced that you were right and that the person you were debating with was wrong? Or that someone else’s behaviour was ‘out of order’ and that it up was up to them to ‘apologise’ or ‘make the first move’? Perhaps you’ve had that situation… Read more
I have recently finished re-reading The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor. In the book he talks about a number of ways to improve your performance at work based on positive psychology principles. One of the areas that Achor discusses in the book is what he calls The Tetris Effect. Tetris is an addictive computer game… Read more
I was brought up in a family that believed that ‘hard work was its own reward’. My family carer guidance was a subset of this ethos and went along the lines of ‘work hard and you will be recognised and promoted’. It took me a few years to find that this was a rather simplistic… Read more
Mindfulness is not new. It is about cultivating a state of mind towards being present and experiencing the fullness of a situation / event, despite how aversive it may be. It means not getting bogged down in one’s own feelings and emotions and being able to see things clearly, so one can respond rather than react.
We say ‘cultivate’ since it takes time. All of our thoughts are habits and we are gardeners in their cultivation. It’s up to us to tend well. Suffering is optional.
As we near the end of the year, it’s a good time to reflect. I wonder what you tell yourself and others about 2013. Do you focus on what has gone well, the wins you have had, how you have contributed, what you have achieved, and the relationships you have grown and maintained? Do you… Read more