Trevor is a vivacious, active, funny and intelligent character. He used to be full of life and his natural exuberance and creativity would add value to a wide range of situations. Unfortunately, over time these wonderful traits have been slowly squeezed out of him thanks to his job. I’d like to say Trevor was an unwitting victim in this situation. It would be easier to say that he’d stumbled recently into a job that was falsely represented but alas he is fully complicit in this painful situation.
He’s actually had this job for 10 years, definitely long enough to know that this role is not right for him. Each day he wakes with a heavy feeling in his chest. Yet again, he realises he has another long, tedious day ahead of him in a place he no longer wants to be. He knows he is not growing in this role. He knows he is not enjoying the work. He knows he is not enjoying the rules and the bureaucracy and he is definitely not waking up each morning looking forward to the day ahead. Each day Trevor feels another bit of him dying a little. A feeling I’m sure many of us can relate to at some time or another.
Trevor is unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled in his current situation. He is feeling adrift in a sea of unhappiness, yet he does have a vision of something better. That vision is resigning from his job and moving to a place that aligns with his passion for the outdoors and adventure to open his own business. He has the vision to create a lifestyle that would allow him the freedom and variety to feel truly alive, to feel like he is following his passion.
The question is, why is he staying? Why is he persisting in a job that is actually harming his mental and physical wellbeing? The answer to these obvious questions is….. the security the role offers. The mighty dollar that is a secure, guaranteed income. Trevor has found himself bizarrely comfortable in this very uncomfortable place.
We all need security in some form. Yes, even those free spirited individuals travelling the world base-jumping from insane heights. That feeling of security comes with a feeling of control and certainty, all addictive qualities. Having a degree of certainty and security is not a bad thing for any of us. Imagine your world if every day you did not know what was happening and you were unsure of where your money or meals were coming from. This is a place of base survival and this is not a place you want to be every day.
Trevor has an advantage, he knows what his passion is. He has his vision, he has the energy and motivation. So what is stopping him?
Fear… fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of going without, fear of not providing for others. It involves taking a risk to forgo a secure well paid job to embark on a journey where there are no guarantees of success. That well-paying secure job that Trevor hates has managed to dig its claws into him bit by bit, or is it Trevor that has his hand clasped so strongly on the mantle of this job that he no longer remembers what life could be like without it? Is the hand of security he holds actually the hand holding him down?
This situation begs the question – if you do what you’ve always done, won’t you get what you’ve always got? If you don’t like what you’ve got or where you are then it’s time for a change.
Maybe it’s time for you to take the leap of faith and do something new to get the something new you’ve been longing for.
Key questions to ask when you’re feeling ‘stuck’ in a situation:
We all have (or will have) key times in our lives when we decide to stay or leave our comfort zone. If you leave your comfort zone you make the choice to take a definitive step towards your vision and dreams. With this courageous move there will be some sacrifices and some challenges but you will also feel freedom, joy and achievement that is worth so much more.
Trevor is feeling like he is adrift in a dark, stormy, inhospitable sea. He’s feeling alone, tired and he’s definitely not enjoying the workplace yet he does have his vision. That vision is his guiding star and can be his salvation. Much like a ship, Trevor can embrace the adventure by casting off the bow lines and sailing away from the security of the harbour to reach it. And with that, he will feel the freedom of taking a liberating step into the future that he will create.
“A ship in harbour is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” John A. Shedd
Working with an Altris Coach means you will have someone there to support you, to challenge you to push your goals a bit more. Feel the excitment to step out from your comfort zone to enjoy creating the future you want.
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