‘Being present’ is truly a present. Eckhart Tolle in his book ‘The Power of Now,’ defines presence as the moments between Perception and Thought. Presence is used interchangeably with ‘equanimity.’ Equanimity is a state of mental or emotional stability or composure arising from a deep awareness and acceptance of the present moment. ‘Being present’ is increasingly a rare state of mind, unless we really work at it. Distractions abound. If you feel as though you’re not getting traction, practising presence may be just the ticket. Proponents such as Jon Kabat-Zinn and Eckhart Tolle write of the virtues of presence and its link to effectiveness, efficiency and life enjoyment. Presence is strongly linked to self-efficacy, because it is based on a sense that we really can make an impact. Presence is also linked to elegance and ease of execution, sometimes referred to as ‘the sweet spot.‘ Presence is strongly linked to leadership, as well as to enduring relationships. As a state of mind, presence becomes easier when we truly accept the situation we find ourselves in. Regular mindfulness practice helps with the every day presence. It doesn’t sound a lot, but just 10 minutes a day, twice a day, can make a massive positive difference to the quality of our day. Less struggle, more appreciation for what is going right, are some of the things we’ll notice.
A reminder of the benefits that can come from a professional coaching intervention.
In this weeks blog I’m going to ask you a question and have you reflect a little.
How often does the word ‘should’ feature for you? When you look at the world around you, do you have a strong sense of how it should be? Do you see what should be done in your workplace and what shouldn’t? Do you have a clear view on how people should behave or act or what they should do?
Or what about yourself? Do you have a strong view on how you should be? How you should act or behave? Do you have a strong picture of what is right for you? How you should and shouldn’t be perceived? How you should look or shouldn’t? Do you find yourself saying ‘I should do that’ or ‘I shouldn’t do that’ a lot?
This word ‘should’ seems to feature very strongly for some of us.
I recently went to a concert that featured a very famous singer. They were part of my youth and I was really looking forward to hearing everything live. Unfortunately the singer can’t really hit the notes anymore and struggled through every song. I was watching the guitarist a lot (it’s something we guitar players do)… Read more
Ever had the feeling you’re not qualified for that new job and will be “found out”? You’re not alone. It’s called Imposter Syndrome (IS). IS is reasonably well researched. Interestingly, most people who experience IS would NOT say,”I feel like an impostor.” Yet, when they read or hear about the experience, they say, “How did you know exactly how I feel?”
And how do they feel? Even though they are often very successful by external standards, IS sufferers feel their successes have been due to ‘luck’ outside of their control.
Apparently we all could get it at some stage in our lives, presenting as a crisis in confidence.
As an executive coach, I come across a lot of wasted talented from people who get ‘in their own way.‘ I see the amount of lost potential as grave.
We offer tips to overcome IS, which revolve around: self acceptance, empowering thoughts, gaining perspective and designing fit for purpose solutions.