Creating Awareness In The Coachee
Creating awareness is linked to ‘coaching that sticks.’ It is the ability for the coach to integrate and accurately evaluate multiple sources of information, and present these back to coachee to help them gain awareness. Creating awareness is ‘inside out’ / getting under the skin of the coachee/seeing things as they see them, whilst also making links to what is possible in their world from where the coachee currently is. This is inside-out transformational change, rather than skills based or outside-in change.
Although context is a powerful determinant in the quality of the coach-coachee relationship, being present with the coachee can really help. So just as we as a coach, are endeavouring to help the coachee with change that comes from the inside and shows itself outward, we too need to work on ourselves from inside out. There is a nice parallel here of ‘inside-outness,’ which helps with the genuineness and specialness of the coachee-coach relationship.
We spend a lot of time with busy people, whether as coachees or as part of our ‘coaching culture’ or ‘high performing teams’ leadership development programmes. One of the most frequent barriers that we face to implementation of the new ideas that these programmes bring is ‘lack of time’. Yet if I had a dollar for every time that time was not the real issue then I would be a very rich man. In this blog we explore the background to being ‘time poor’
‘Being present’ is truly a present. Eckhart Tolle in his book ‘The Power of Now,’ defines presence as the moments between Perception and Thought. Presence is used interchangeably with ‘equanimity.’ Equanimity is a state of mental or emotional stability or composure arising from a deep awareness and acceptance of the present moment. ‘Being present’ is increasingly a rare state of mind, unless we really work at it. Distractions abound. If you feel as though you’re not getting traction, practising presence may be just the ticket. Proponents such as Jon Kabat-Zinn and Eckhart Tolle write of the virtues of presence and its link to effectiveness, efficiency and life enjoyment. Presence is strongly linked to self-efficacy, because it is based on a sense that we really can make an impact. Presence is also linked to elegance and ease of execution, sometimes referred to as ‘the sweet spot.‘ Presence is strongly linked to leadership, as well as to enduring relationships. As a state of mind, presence becomes easier when we truly accept the situation we find ourselves in. Regular mindfulness practice helps with the every day presence. It doesn’t sound a lot, but just 10 minutes a day, twice a day, can make a massive positive difference to the quality of our day. Less struggle, more appreciation for what is going right, are some of the things we’ll notice.
A reminder of the benefits that can come from a professional coaching intervention.
In this weeks blog I’m going to ask you a question and have you reflect a little.
How often does the word ‘should’ feature for you? When you look at the world around you, do you have a strong sense of how it should be? Do you see what should be done in your workplace and what shouldn’t? Do you have a clear view on how people should behave or act or what they should do?
Or what about yourself? Do you have a strong view on how you should be? How you should act or behave? Do you have a strong picture of what is right for you? How you should and shouldn’t be perceived? How you should look or shouldn’t? Do you find yourself saying ‘I should do that’ or ‘I shouldn’t do that’ a lot?
This word ‘should’ seems to feature very strongly for some of us.