Making time for our own self-development
Promises, promises, promises….the tyranny of the urgent means that many of us leave our own self-development to the last thing on the list. So how do we get traction? We need to be very clear about why we’re on the journey of self-development. Each of us has our own unique motivators for becoming committed. So choose self-development activities that connect to the way we learn.
Once clear on why we’re doing it, we then need to make time for it. Commitment has an emotional component to it, driven by a deeper sense of what really matters, with the consequence of easily saying ‘no’ to what doesn’t. It requires a large dose of continued self-discipline to make our self-development a priority.
It also helps to connect our plan to our values.
Making time for our own self-development is gratifying and beneficial for all concerned. So when we catch ourselves saying ‘I don’t have time,’ think on.
Introversion is an orientation in how you relate to the world. It is not a skill, or a choice. It is not a lifestyle. Introverts are people who find other people tiring. By contrast, Extroverts are energised by people, and wilt or fade when alone.
Out of all of the constructs of personality, the Introvert-Extrovert construct is arguably the most powerful influencer as to what we notice and how we live our lives.
What’s the benefit in knowing this? In designing working environments it’s important that introverts have access to quiet spaces for completing more intensive work. Mobile phone and emails can be unwelcome distractions too.
When thinking about designing the ideal learning environment for a course, facilitators would do well to ensure that there are both quiet contemplative times for reading, digesting new material as well as for paired or small group work.
Because of their preference to be an onlooker / observer type, Introverts really come into their own when they are asked to review and comment upon others’ work and to appraise the logic of a situation.
Investing your time in doing some ‘quality’ noticing for where introverts thrive can repay your effort many times over, especially if you are then able to adapt your approach to operate in a way that gets the best from your team of introverts.
‘Get over Yourself?’
We fancy ourselves as pretty tough in this country. ‘Get over yourself’ is a reasonably common phrase here. However, just telling ourselves to ‘get over yourself’, and ignoring our state of mind, doesn’t work by itself. It’s important to take note when we’re ‘out of sorts’ because in fact brain-wise we may be. As simple as it may be, getting a good night’s sleep, and breathing well throughout the day, will set you up for integrated brain success. So, ironically by attending (i.e. ‘getting into yourself’) rather than ignoring your current state, you’ll make significant steps toward ‘getting over yourself’ and moving forward in an elegant and integrated way.
It’s an irony that the build up to Christmas can mean a build up of tension. Christmas is heralded as a time of goodwill and cheer, although it can be ‘anything but’, if we let it get the better of us.
Resilience can be defined as the bounce back factor and helps us navigate our way through the tensions. Derek Roger’s Challenge of Change programme on Resilience, works from the inside out, challenging our thinking about the pressures of everyday life.
Wake up, Controlled Attention, Detachment, Letting Go are the four simple steps to managing pressure from an individual perspective, as opposed to an organisational perspective.
With this broader appreciation for the origins of stress, and some rigour around how we can self-monitor our responses to events, we are able to approach Christmas with a perspective on what really matters: goodwill, peace of mind and gratitude towards what is happening around us, both good and not so good.
Have you ever been party to a business relationship with someone where you just seem to click? And you weren’t even aware of the ‘effort in – result’ equation. The Altris Relationship Equity Inventory (R.E.I.) helps put a measure on why those relationships work, with a view to helping better relationships which are not so good or puzzling. By understanding our least-preferred thought dimensions and taking action to view our relationships through that perspective, we have the opportunity to deepen our relationships, which is good for business all round.